Seven Ways to Become an Optimist

Optimism is not a fixed attribute. There are times when even the most optimistic person may feel she’s down in the dumps. But remember that it’s a choice we have control over. You might wake up grumpy, but make sure that your day is full of optimism, for yourself and for those around you. Happy people are successful people. They might not be richest or the most glamourous, but they are the ones who live life to the fullest, and make a positive difference in others' lives, too.

1. Find the opportunity in every difficulty.

When faced with a dilemma, do you shirk the problem away, or do you confront it with positive approach? When you are caught in a difficult situation, do you buckle under pressure, or find a silver lining in it? Setbacks are often inevitable, but they are manageable. Provided you’re in the right frame of mind.

2. Surround yourself with positive people.

You are only as good as the company you keep.  If you’re around gloomy people, there’s a good chance you won’t be smiling. If you want to soar with the eagles, you have to stop hanging out with the ducks. Surround yourself with people who could influence you with positivity, not someone who’d pull you down.

3. Give love, receive love, and invest in love.

Love is the greatest force in the universe. It surpasses all other human emotions, because it’s the most long lasting and endearing one. There are millions of people who’d do anything for a loving friendship, a warm caress or a kind word. I’m sure you do, too. Love forgives. Love heals. Love encourages. Love inspires.

4. Expect ups and downs.

There will be bad days. Be prepared to face them. There will be mean people. Be prepared to tackle them. And there will be situations you’d hate to be part of. Be prepared to dodge them. Waves go up and down – so is life. Be realistic, be sensible.

5. Smile.

Smile through everything, you’ll feel better. The physical act of a smile tells your brain to automatically be positive. Remind yourself that your smile can light the faces around you.

6. Count your blessings.

“I complained about not having new shoes. Then I saw a man with no feet.”

There are umpteen blessings that we take for granted every day. Start by saying thanks for those. Track your accomplishments and celebrate your victories.

7. Focus on the present.

Learn to live in the NOW. Don’t worry about the past, or be anxious about the future. People are so often obsessed with their pasts that they forget to live the moment. Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. Don’t miss it.